Books To Help Marriages Survive & Thrive After Infidelity   

 


You've discovered that your husband has cheated on you. Maybe you've discovered incriminating emails or text messages from his lover, or, worse yet, have actually seen them together. Your world is crashing down. You feel like a nuclear bomb just decimated your entire world, and you are trying to shield yourself from the fallout. This is very likely the most painful experience you've ever had. You've been sucker punched in the soul.  Infidelity in marriage makes you doubt everything, including your own judgement.

You are so confused. Your emotions are volatile - one minute you're so angry you could claw his eyes out, the next moment you're devastated with grief because you fear he will to leave you for his affair partner.   

You never wanted a divorce, but somehow you are now in this position. Do you take him back or blow up your family? What about the kids? It's all so unfair!

Ever since you were a young woman, you told all your friends that if your man ever cheated on you, you would be so out of there. But life isn't black and white anymore, is it? You love your husband. Sure, there might have been issues, but you know that marriage is work. 

You've built a life together. You have a home. You have children. You cringe at the idea of being a single mother and hitting the dating scene. He seems sincere in wanting to work things out. You want to stay married. But then you think to yourself, "Only weak women stay with cheaters. Strong women walk!" Then you loop and want a divorce, until you think of your kids being spilt between two homes.... and now you want to stay married. Rinse, Repeat.

You can't even think straight and you keep going through a never ending loop of ambivalence. You will never get unstuck until you develop criteria around if your husband is sincere in wanting your marriage to recover after infidelity. 

Dr. Caroline Madden, is a Licensed Marriage & Family therapist who specializes in helping women recover from their husband's infidelity.  In Fool Me Once, she shares the criteria she uses to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he is likely to cheat again. 

Here is some of the information she shares: 

  • 5 Things That Look Suspicious (But Probably Aren't)
  • 5 Signs You Should Consider Giving Him Another Chance 
  • 7 Signs He is Going to Cheat Again (And You Will Be Hurt Again)

Infidelity in marriage is traumatic and you need to take time to assess the situation. Fool Me Once will give you the tools you need to evaluate your relationship. It will help you determine whether you should trust your husband or not and decide if your marriage is worth saving. 

As they say "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."  

2017 LONDON BOOK FEST-Honorable Mention

2017 BEST BOOK AWARDS FEST-Finalist

Your husband cheated on you, and now you don’t recognize yourself. 

You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you’re falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing, such as: 

  • Obsessively checking your husband’s email, text messaging, & social media accounts
  • Freaking out if he is 10 minutes late (or if you text him and he doesn’t reply right away)
  • Feeling disgusted with yourself: you’re too fat, too then, too old
  • Wondering who is this guy that you married anyway. Was any of it real?
  • After a rare happy moment with your husband, getting really, really angry and raging at him out of nowhere

You’re scared. Angry. Obsessive. Devastated.

One minute, you hope your marriage will make it. The next minute, you want to kill him. (And the other woman, too.)

All of this makes you feel like you are losing it. Sometimes you worry that you are going crazy. You wonder if you’ll ever be the same again. 

You are NOT crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband’s betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience.

This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It’s important that you understand that your feelings—erratic and unpredictable as they may be—are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings. 

Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity recovery expert and licensed marriage therapist describes:

  • Posttraumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS)
  • 7 Actions you want to take but should NOT (as They May Backfire Horribly)
  • Understand why you feel crazy
  • 12 Actions that will help you get back to the woman you were
  • The stupid things your husband says and why he says it

The suggestions provided here will help you get through this difficult time, whether or not you stay in your marriage. It is geared towards helping you deal with your tumultuous emotions so that you can make sound decisions regarding next steps.

 

Buy “Blindsided By His Betrayal” and feel better.

You are a good man who made a bad decision. You were unfaithful in your marriage.

You love your wife, and now that you see clearly what your infidelity has done to her, you are incredibly sorry that you have hurt her so much.

You want to save your marriage. You don't want to lose your family. I know that you are doing your best to regain your wife's trust, but no matter what you do, you seem to make it worse. She has so many questions about your affair. So. Many. Questions.

Not only is your wife furious, but she's also emotionally volatile. Sometimes she seems to love you more deeply than ever, and other times she kicks you out of the house.

You are on a roller coaster. You want your marriage back, but you're not sure how to help your wife trust you again and move forward. She doesn't know what she wants, and her volatility exhausts and upsets you. You both are stuck.

My name is Dr. Caroline Madden. I've been a marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles for two decades. I have helped countless couples restore their marriages after infidelity.

I've seen women just like your wife go through the whole process--from uncovering their husbands' affair to making it to the other side, heart healed and marriage restored. I have heard their innermost thoughts and concerns as they try to process their husbands' betrayal. I know what specific stages your wife will experience. I know what prevents women from moving forward, and I know what women need in order to trust and forgive.

Most importantly, I know the things men say and do that they think are helpful but that actually make things worse. Simply put, you are probably doing things that would help you heal if this happened to you. But you aren’t married to another man, you are married to a woman! Women process things differently. That’s the root cause of why all your well-meaning efforts are horribly backfiring.

This book is a practical action plan that will walk you through the predictable stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity. Learn the tools to fix your marriage. Avoid the (sometimes fatal) mistakes I've seen so many men make.

In this book, you'll learn the things your wife is going to feel, say, and do, giving you the following:

  • Insight into what she is thinking and why this is so hard for her to get over
  • Practical advice so you know exactly what to do at this important stage
  • Actual scripts so you know what to say in response to very specific situations
  • Clear explanations as to why certain words and actions you think will be helpful might be making this worse.
  • Two self-administered quizzes to help you determine why you cheated so that you can get a better understanding of what triggered your affair.

Included at the appropriate points are scripts of what to say and why you need to say those words at that time. You will want to translate the scripts into your own natural wording, using the meaning of each script as a launching pad for productive, healing dialogue with your wife.

Also, other these other questions are answered:

  • She doesn't know. I feel guilty. Should I tell her the truth?
  • We aren't married yet? How does that impact recovering from the affair?
  • I didn't have a physical relationship with my Affair Partner, why is my wife so upset?
  • What is an Emotional Affair?

This is the most important time for you to get things right, because your wife is actively deciding at this stage whether or not she wants to stay with you.

 

Buy "After a Good Man Cheats" today.

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